tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2499255153221874770.post262262344085624354..comments2024-02-06T01:35:31.721-06:00Comments on Choosing Joy: 10 Ways to Help Someone Who is Grieving.Jenna Buettemeyerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12342843089585972374noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2499255153221874770.post-19729515223860407362014-02-15T16:59:44.406-06:002014-02-15T16:59:44.406-06:00This is a fantastic list! I think people have such...This is a fantastic list! I think people have such a hard time helping those grieving because they honestly dont know what to say or do so they feel its better to do nothing than do the wrong thing. Posts like this one help educate and give people praftical options to help friends ans loves ones going through a difficult time. It is also applicable to helping after a major surgery or illness.Jamee @ A New Kind of Normalhttp://www.anewkindofnormal.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2499255153221874770.post-6658150115429239512014-02-14T22:13:10.436-06:002014-02-14T22:13:10.436-06:00I love this. I struggle to really help and know wh...I love this. I struggle to really help and know what to do when someone is grieving, and I'm thankful for this compilation to help me. I have friends and family members that have lost dear ones, and instead of being a shoulder for them, I tend to shy away. I really appreciate you putting this together for us. Glad to have found you through SITS :) ~JennaAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00234047562369350567noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2499255153221874770.post-42360477707137567262014-02-14T15:24:51.547-06:002014-02-14T15:24:51.547-06:00This is a great list. It is also great just for be...This is a great list. It is also great just for being a better person/friend. We went through a lot of radical issues last year and spent half the year in hospitals. Friends and family were amazing . Everybody wants to do something and offers help, but the people that just do something (and not just offer) are truly amazing and make a difference. I am now always trying to do something for others without asking and your list is very helpful. I agree with everything 100%. Katrinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14525113846724750653noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2499255153221874770.post-19263454500625639992014-02-13T19:54:06.002-06:002014-02-13T19:54:06.002-06:00It is so true about it being interesting who steps...It is so true about it being interesting who steps up when you're grieving. My dad passed away a week and a half ago and the people I thought would be there haven't necessarily and people I wouldn't have thought of have. The prayers for us, which my dad actually asked for in a letter he requested be read at his funeral, have to be what's holding us together. <br />Kelliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14817998832082581186noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2499255153221874770.post-82467910703560494042014-02-13T14:20:05.063-06:002014-02-13T14:20:05.063-06:00Thanks so much for sharing this.
My mum just had ...Thanks so much for sharing this.<br /><br />My mum just had a massive stroke at the weekend, and it was not looking very hopeful. (Today she is much brighter though!) - how friends have already rallied round with love, prayers and practical help as been such an encouragement, and I know I can count on them whatever happens with Mum.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06833388514253606318noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2499255153221874770.post-66486663688304855212014-02-13T09:13:11.399-06:002014-02-13T09:13:11.399-06:00I couldn't agree more on this list. It is just...I couldn't agree more on this list. It is just better to just show up, step in and do things for the grieving family instead of waiting for them to ask for your help. Of course there are those that really would prefer to be left alone for some time. When I lost my grandmother the day before New Year several years ago, there was nobody there at the funeral but us. We understood because it's New Year's day and people would prefer to stay with their families. But it was heart breaking to hear people celebrating everywhere and we were all so silent and weeping in our own corners at the funeral. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2499255153221874770.post-53697591390239422792014-02-13T04:30:06.923-06:002014-02-13T04:30:06.923-06:00What a great list. I especially love number 10.What a great list. I especially love number 10.Jennifer Dawnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02262940124668696483noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2499255153221874770.post-35193942366584591572014-02-12T21:02:46.688-06:002014-02-12T21:02:46.688-06:00My friend Amanda posted your blog and I couldn'...My friend Amanda posted your blog and I couldn't help but take a peak! This list is amazing and when I went through my loss, it was the small stuff that mattered, that truly made a difference. I know a lady that writes beautifully and has made a very positive thing out of her loss, if you want to read her it's hope smiling brightly and it's pretty cool. You're a great writer!Rubynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2499255153221874770.post-7077067415717582602014-02-12T20:46:08.516-06:002014-02-12T20:46:08.516-06:00This should be published, it's a great post an...This should be published, it's a great post and as someone else said, such truth! We all know that folks that say, "call if you need anything" really mean it,but we also know that we are very unlikely to do that. Happy Valentine's Day my dear!Lea @ CiCis Cornerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09252011706208068724noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2499255153221874770.post-19560003933961723952014-02-12T12:56:54.570-06:002014-02-12T12:56:54.570-06:00This is 100% awesome. This helped me so much. I&...This is 100% awesome. This helped me so much. I've been through grief (my dad died in a plane crash 5 months prior to my wedding) and stood beside many, as they grieve. And this is 100% accurate and so helpful. Especially the part of "call me if you need anything" I NEVER EVER EVER EVER say it......it is natural to want to say this, everyone says this.....but JUST DO things. You are so great at how you expressed each of these points.<br />Thank you for allowing us to learn from you as you walk though this. It's so helpful. And as a nurse (I know you are, too) this carries over into our field. I'm a disaster response nurse, and spent a month in the Philippines recently, and all of this is true even in situations like that. How to help hurting people.<br /><br />Thank you so much.<br />Kelly in Michigan :) (love your blog)<br />sitesx6@aol.com<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2499255153221874770.post-33420505973529561632014-02-12T12:09:46.901-06:002014-02-12T12:09:46.901-06:00Another idea is to help with pets. When my dad ha...Another idea is to help with pets. When my dad had a massive stroke and we spent every waking moment and a few nights at the hospital, it was such a blessing to know our dogs were taken care of. <br /><br />This is a great list and having been through the loss of my dad, I can say you are spot on with your list. <br />Praying for you and your sweet family.<br />SusanJazzerMommahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02838751726303861043noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2499255153221874770.post-16216031448471397602014-02-12T11:48:00.684-06:002014-02-12T11:48:00.684-06:00I couldn't agree with you more. I lost my Mom...I couldn't agree with you more. I lost my Mom in 2004...your brain just doesn't function well when going through something so hard. I would also add, after the calls, cards, phone calls, food stop, reality sets in...remember the living as well...and continue the cards, calls and texts.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2499255153221874770.post-72310719578046014972014-02-12T11:23:45.983-06:002014-02-12T11:23:45.983-06:00Your list is spot on!!! I haven't lost a pare...Your list is spot on!!! I haven't lost a parent like y'all have, but I did lose both of my grandparents last fall within 18 days of each other and just recently went through a period of sickness with my kids which resulted in our baby being hospitalized. It's such a blessing to get a text, gift card, meal, or something else tangible. The last few weeks have reminded me to return the favor next time someone I know is in that position. Hugs to you!Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09652850794019022495noreply@blogger.com